A dear friend recently had a baby. As I held her sweet little bundle of joy my heart wept. Wept not for her, but for myself. I joked with her as well as my husband that her baby was, “bad news for my uterus.” Truth be told it was bad news for my heart. I realized I am in the middle of motherhood growing pains.
I am watching my daughter quickly fading out of toddlerhood while my baby is quickly approaching it. My son doesn’t look much like a baby these days and my daughter is looking older with every passing day.
18 years of being a parent and having them in your home seems like a lifetime most days, but then days like today I am reminded that 18 years comes real quick. If my husband and I do our job correctly our kids will be fleeing the nest and beginning their own adventures.
I am in the thick of the growing pains right now. They hurt and keep me awake some nights. They paralyze me with fear and send me in a downward spiral of nostalgia.
Then I am gently reminded of the truth. They are not mine. They don’t belong to me. They belong to God and He has just entrusted me to look after them here on Earth and guide them towards the truth. Keeping them little while that sounds wonderful, does nothing. They are meant to grow. They have a purpose and a calling and it’s my duty as their mother to help nurture and encourage that growth so they can become the people they were created to be. Knowing that makes days like today a little easier. Takes the pain away for a while.
So I will choose to be in the present moments with each of them. I will revel in the joyful moments as well as the hard ones. I will teach them truth. I will teach them love by showing them unconditionally; and loving them well– even when it’s hard. I will teach them joy. I will display peace and practice patience. I will teach them to be kind to others as well as to themselves. I will be gentle with them. I will lead by example in my faithfulness to God, my husband and to them so they in turn can be faithful people. I will teach them to be thankful and we together will count our blessings. Lastly I will teach them to be creatures of self-control. They will know how and when to say, “NO”, but more importantly they will be in control of their words and actions.